not one of my favorite things

The for sale sign went in the yard yesterday and the movers are here today packing up. I will say I am extremely thankful to have Microsoft paying for our house to be packed. Yet, while I am thankful, it feels very surreal.

I can be a control freak at times and I have found myself hovering over the packers this morning. I want to know what is in each box, how they wrapped it, where the box is going to go in the new house. I'm sure I've been annoying.

So, now I am upstairs warming up and I don't think I'm going to go back to the basement. Most everything will get to Seattle. Some things will be broken. Some things will be missing. Some of the Watkins stuff will probably end up going with us. Some of our stuff will probably get left behind. My new house will be crazy and unorganized for a long time no matter how I color code the boxes. I can choose to relinquish control.

I am only surviving this whole transition because I have to keep letting go of my control (or pointless pursuit of it).

Now...to figure out what to do with unexpected time this morning.

Favorite Thing #3

The Farells

Last night we went to Joe and Carol Farells house for Ribs. My children know the Farells as the house with the Ribs. This started from a night two summers ago when we sat out on the Farells' gorgeous back patio and my kids put down an impressive amount of ribs. We were all a little amazed.

We have known the Farells since we started at Riverside Church 10 years ago. I taught the preschool Sunday class with them every Sunday for a couple of years. We co-led a house group with them for a couple of years. Joe and Brian have served together as Elders of our church for over six years, Carol and I used to be in a morning Bible study together, and Brian and Carol served closely on the pastoral search committee together. We are just a few years older than their kids but we view them as great friends.

When you first meet Joe, with his deep ominous voice, you might get the impression he is this big tough guy with a hard shell. He is really just a big softy. He always greets me with a "hi sweetie," bear hug, and often a kiss on the head.

Carol has the gift of organization, hospitality, service and humor. When we were in Bible study together, we laughed at her discomfort with questions that dug deep in the heart and now she will walk boldly into conflict or discomfort if it will bring God glory and show someone love. About three years ago I sat down next to Carol at a Women's Retreat and she could tell that I was not myself, I was at a low point. Something happened in Carol's heart and it was as if she just made a decision that it was her job to care for me.

I distinctly remember that time because, since then, I have never felt so pursued by someone as I have by Carol. When our family entered into the GAPS protocol, therefore restricting our diets and increasing the amount of time in the kitchen by 6 times, she walked closely beside us. She cooked for us monthly, researched new recipes and adapted them for us, and helped others figure out how to cook for us.

One day at Church, she came up and declared that she wanted my children to really know her. She made up her mind that she would make sure my kids knew her and felt safe with her. She and Joe then started having us over for dinner once a month. This was so huge at the time because most people were so afraid of our restricted diet that we were rarely invited for dinner.

Very quickly, my kids began to look forward to nights at the Farells'...we all did. It is easy to feel treated in their home. Last night was no exception. The fire was burning high, Christmas music was playing, we had wine poured for us before we sat at the kitchen bar, the kids had games and blocks spread out on the kitchen floor, and we all felt at home.

As we sat at the table finishing our meal, Tyler asks Mr. Farell if he can sit in his lap. Brian and I look at each other, a little surprised that Tyler would be that affectionate. Joe, is delighted and then Tyler asks if he'll cuddle with him. The big teddy bear cries. We all do. Tyler understands this is the last time we will be at their house. I understand what it means for kids to be known and pursued by adults other than their family. They feel welcomed, safe, and loved.

Thank you Joe and Carol. Thank you for realizing the power, influence and impact you can have in other's lives. Thank you for deciding to love and pursue our family. My kids will have a greater chance of believing that they are valuable, worthy, and special because they have been viewed that way by you.

We love you!

Favorite Thing #5

My Bedroom

Ohh, I love to be in bed!!! This is the view I have while I'm lying in bed. My dream morning would be to wake up slowly and stay in bed, going in and out of sleep, for another hour, then drink coffee and watch a movie.

The light is amazing in our room (thanks to my brilliant husband who kept the ceiling open so light flows everywhere).

It is so hard to get out of my bed when the light is coming in and the window behind our bed is open. The breeze comes through and when its cold outside I love burrowing down under my covers.

This is the view when I lie on my back. Many of great ideas have been born and problems have been solved while I stare at the angles in our room.

Many weekend mornings I listen as Brian tells the kids over and over to be more quiet cuz mommy is sleeping. I laugh. They have no ability to be quiet.

On school mornings the boys come wake me up and jump in bed for morning snuggles. It took a lot of prayer and by the grace of God I now greet them with open arms in the mornings when they wake me up. Hopefully they won't remember those years when I was sleep deprived and grumpy every morning. I've given up on the idea that they will ever have memories of mommy up before them.

Some afternoons, Annabelle and I nap together. It always takes her a long time to sleep as she looks out the window and talks about the trees and birds.

We have the prettiest Bradford Pear right outside the window. It looks awesome in the fall and even better in the spring full of white flowers.

My most precious memories are of nursing Grayson and Annabelle in the mornings in bed. On a good day when we could stay in bed for a while, I would hug them and never wanted to let go. Hard giggles would bid me to keep tickling and rolling on the bed.

It is hard to think of living in a house where I haven't had babies. It is hard to think of never returning to the house where I had babies. It solidifies that I no longer have any babies. It really did go so fast.

Favorite Thing #4

My Living Room

These are the images I want to remember of my living room. This is where I sit. I nap here. I watch TV here. I pray here. I cry here. I snuggle with my hubby and kids here. I read here.

I love my house. We get so much light because we are on the second and third floors so our windows aren't blocked by trees or other houses. We also get an incredible cross breeze.

I sid on my soft couch and drink my coffee and the breeze chills me as the light fills the room. I snuggle under my brown blanket and fall asleep most afternoons. Grayson wakes from his nap and curls up under the blanket with me until we go get the boys from the bus. My favorite part of my day is usually on this couch.

I look out the window often at my quiet street and feel comforted when the train comes by. It makes me feel a part of the outside world. Many people say our home feels warm when they come in and it makes me want to jump up and down and cheer. That is what I want people to feel when they visit and that is what I think too. I love the feeling of coming home. I don't feel like I need to be anywhere but here.

Favorite Thing #2

MRH ECC

You have to read the above title in the same way you would say M-I-Z...Z-O-U because that is how I read those letters every time I think them. The preschoolers, Kindergarteners and First Graders make up the ECC and chant this at the Fun Run that takes place every year on Halloween.

The whole school walks over to the High School track and classes line up to run a 1/4 mile around the track and receive metals...even siblings get to run.

This is just one of the many activities the school does that promotes a sense of community. Tyler could tell you most of the 1st Graders names (in the whole school district). At events like the fun run, many parents come and I know most of them now.
I love this picture for many reasons. One, I love this rod iron gate. Its new. It reminds me of all the changes the school is making and I love the district for how intense they strive to be innovative and teach outside of the box. Second, I love this because Grayson all my kids feel so comfortable here. The school feels safe and we are free to come whenever we want.

We can play outside in the amazing, natural play space that has climbing structures made from wood, a bridge that crosses that waterfall and creek, three play houses, this list of cool things goes on and on.

We can go see the chickens or walk through the perennial garden or go see the vegetable garden.

One of Tyler's specials during the week is "Seed to Table" where the kids learn all about the garden, animals, chickens, and other sustainability related things all tied into academics. Local food is used in school lunches which are actually healthy.

When we moved to Maplewood, we had no idea we would stay to put our kids in the schools. We discovered quickly how strong the community is here and the strong families that are committed to its success.

I thought we would see all our kids graduate from MRH and reflect on all the stories of kids and families changed while we were here. God has different plans for our family now but I think his plan still continues here. He is moving in this community and I am thankful we were a part of it, even if just for a while.

Favorite Thing #1

MRS. COUNTS

To say I was nervous about Tyler starting Kindergarten would be the understatement of the year. If you know me, I don't need to say anymore. For months before school started, Tyler and I would pray at night about his first teacher. We prayed that she would be "just the right teacher for HIM."

A couple of weeks before school started, this sweet woman with the strongest Southern accent came to our home to meet us all (all the teachers do home visits before the beginning of the year). I could tell right away that she was warm and would love on him in a motherly way.

MRH loops their teachers so kids have the same teacher for 2 years all the way through elementary (another reason the school district is awesome). In just this short time this woman has helped me discover my child. She knows him so well. Early on, she was pointing out to me how he needed routine, didn't like change, and liked to know what the plan was. I was so thankful she could see this in him but where God has used her in our life is to help me see that those traits of Tyler's are not a problem.

She sees that in him and honors it. She doesn't see it as a problem to fix, she is not afraid of, she even knows how to help him to be aware of it. One of the best ways she does this is with a fantastic sense of humor. She can joke with Tyler and help him to feel at ease and not be so hard on himself.

She sends me notes to let me know the character she sees in my son. She points out that he is kind, helpful to others, and thoughtful. She sees her job as a ministry to the children and she takes seriously the fact that she spends more time with these kids than we do.

At our parent-teacher conference this year in November she encouraged us about the move and how to support Tyler in a supernatural way. Brian and I sat there in tears without words to say (well, Brian was teary...I was sobbing) as we both were in awe of how she knew Tyler so well and admonished us with specific ways to help him with this transition and words of faith in Tyler and in God.

"He is strong," she said. "I know he puts on the shy act at first and he is going to be very scared but he can do it. He is so strong and he is going to thrive. Any teacher is going to be so excited to have him."

At the school concert last Thursday, Grayson ran up to "Mrs. Cow--ents" as he calls her, and tackled her. She welcomed him and proceeded to tickle him and Annabelle, picking them up, flipping them over for 10 minutes. As we left she called out, "Bye Miss Annabelle (in her sweet Southern accent that Annabelle's name was meant to sound like), Bye my little man (to Grayson) I love you, Bye my big man (to Tyler) I LOVE you!"

Mrs. Counts, we LOVE you! I am heartbroken that Grayson and Annabelle won't get to have you as their Kindergarten and First Grade teacher too. But, ohhh, am I so thankful that Tyler did. He is a more confident child because of your love, challenge and faith.

Thank You.

And Thank You God for hearing my prayer. I so often forget that you are good. You knew who Tyler needed and you know who he needs now. You will not abandon us. Prepare a place for him in Grand Ridge Elementary.

My favorite things

In 2 weeks my home will be empty and in 3 weeks I will live in Seattle.

I can not even begin to explain how unbelievable this all seems. I am holding it together but I can tell that it is taking extra Grace and prayers...the seams feel tight.

Tyler and I have been filling out a book titled: "My New Home and Me" which is an awesome tool for a kiddo like Ty who likes to know exactly what is ahead of him and also likes to fill in blanks. He fills in things like his old and new address, how long he's lived here, things about his neighborhood, favorite city places, etc. It also has many places for pictures. So, we have given him our old family camera so he can take all the pictures he wants. I asked him to make a list of the pictures he wants to get. Here is his list:

• my friends
• my school
• Mrs. Counts
• Memphis (the Watkins new dog)
• Foundation Grounds
• Jr. High Park (also known in our family as Jane-Ellis Park)
• The Heights Pool
• YMCA
• The house and my room

I am inspired by my seven year old and I am going to take pictures and blog about my favorites, the things that will be the hardest to leave, that I have been so blessed to have experienced.

Stay tuned...